Anatomy of a Romantic Breakup: What's Going On with Your Energy Body - 7/4/06

Sheryl Crowe and Letting Go of Lance

Rocker chick Sheryl Crowe and Tour de France star Lance Armstrong broke off their engagement in February, right before Sheryl was diagnosed with breast cancer and underwent successful treatment for the disease.

She says that she still is grieving over the breakup, processing the intense energies. She described the essence of a breakup as a psychic "amputation" of sorts.

She's right.

Sexual Union With Someone Creates a Shared Energy Body

When you're with someone romantically for any real length of time, a shared energy body is created. Your energies fuse with that person. So when there is a breakup, you very much feel like something has been amputated because that energy body has been split in half again.

Clairvoyants see this on an energy level. It takes half the life of the relationship for you to reclaim your own energy again.

So if you were with someone for two years, it will take a year for your own energies to fully extend and fill out again so that you start to feel normal again.

If you were with someone for ten years, it will take five years of recovery before your energy body is YOURS again and you're fully separated from the other person.

Imagine what's it like for members of older generations when they deal with a death of a spouse. The tradition used to be to marry for life, so many folks who are senior citizens now were married more years than they were single - as many as fifty or more years. When they lose a spouse, it is absolutely devasating. This is why it is so common for someone to come down with a serious illness or to even die within a year after their spouse/longtime partner dies. That shared energy body is flopping around, and they're no longer receiving energy from the person who has died, and it takes a lot of homework and self-healing to replenish that energy feed that has been lost.

Shamanic Decording Can Help You Recover From a Breakup

This healing process post-breakup or after the loss of a partner can be accelerated by exploring a shamanic technique called decording. This is when a healer separates the umbilical cord of astral energy that links you to that other person. Tons of emotions and thoughts are broadcast back and forth via that energy cord during the time that you are partnered with someone. This is why you have many moments of psychic connection with your partner, when it's like the two of you are reading each other's minds. You are connected spiritually with this astral cord of energy.

When you break up, this astral cord will still be there and takes a long time to dissipate. Having a shamanic practitioner decord you makes this process easier. You'll find your emotions much calmer and you'll feel much less attached to the other person. That way, you can get on with your own healing.

You can also invoke God, the angels, and your spiritual helpers to decord you. Ask them to sever the ties that bind you to your former flame, lovingly breaking those bonds and returning all the energy that you're still holding on to to that other person....and also reclaiming any energy that rightfully belongs to you.

You can invoke this nightly before you go to sleep or do it first thing in the morning for a couple of weeks post-breakup. And it will really, really help you to move on with your life with hope, positivity, and love in your heart. You'll feel detached from your ex in a good way - seeing the experience of being together as a good learning experience, but not something you are going to repeat.

Here's Sheryl briefly describing her own process of letting go of Lance...if you've ever been through a breakup, what she says will be very familiar to you:

Sheryl on Getting Over Lance

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