(This is an edited version of a post I made at the wonderful metaphysical discussion forum, http://www.montalk.net. To read the entire thread, which was about having children or not having children and the spiritual repercussions of each choice, you can go to: http://www.noblerealms.org. I post there under the name Lipstick Mystic.)
I find that the issue of having kids or not having kids is one of the great "taboos" within the healing/metaphysical community. Nobody likes to talk about it. And rarely are people honest about their real views on the subject, for fear of other people judging them and going into a "I'm more enlightened than you on this subject" stance. That's the attitude I've found whenever this subject gets raised, and it sure doesn't help anyone explore the issue. That said, I'm going to put my own views out there.
Keep in mind that this is simply my truth, and it may or not resonate with you, and I respect all views on the subject. I don't mean any disrespect to parents or people who are thinking about becoming parents, because they perform such an important and sacred duty. So none of what I am about to write is intended as a "slam." Please know that.
Herbal Contraception and Lost Women's Knowledge
I'm childfree by choice and always will be. Should I get pregnant via "oops," I know the herbs to take that will bring on my period. This information was a part of women's education for centuries until the Church intimidated women into silence during the "witch burning" of the Middle Ages and afterwards. Since then, women have helped maintain the conspiracy of silence by not sharing this information with their fellow women. Poo on them, I say. For years women were subjecting each other to lifetimes of having 10-12 children, because nobody would talk about this stuff and assert their right to have sovereignty over their reproductive systems. My grandparents came from families of 10-12 children each. The burden on those families and on those women, physically, emotionally, financially, is simply unbelievable - and inexcusable, if you ask me.
The millions of women who were killed off in the Middle of Ages were the herbalists, midwives, and domestic mystics who knew how to invoke spiritual energy for healing, for medicine, for childbirth, and for contraception. It's very sad that that wisdom had to go underground to the point that it barely exists anymore.
Natural Contraception and Herbal Contraception
Contraceptive herbs have always existed. Sylvestre was culled to the point of extinction during the Roman era because it was so popular as a contraceptive. Recently studies have proven that the herb chastetree reduces a man's sperm count, just as the American Indians have always claimed; and it also brings on a woman's period. There are many herbs still available today that do the trick. Hint: go into a health food store and look for the herbs that are "contra-indicated for pregnancy" -- meaning, don't take them while pregnant because they will induce a miscarriage. None should be taken in large amounts because they can be poisonous, but in small amounts they will bring on your period. Disclaimer: I'm not attempting to give medical advice here, so be sure to research this on your own. Email me privately if you wish more info. Additional note: Never take pennyroyal internally; there is some conflicting information on this, but please know that pennyroyal is very toxic to the body.
So the truth of the matter is that between herbal contraception and also communicating directly with spirits of the unborn, we do have the ability to determine whether or not we will bring a child into this world. There's no real need for a "oops."
Releasing Old Programming Around Parenting
Many metaphysical types like to say, well, if you have a soul contract already in place to bring in a child to this world, you have to fulfill it....or you won't be fulfilling your karma or whatever.
Not true. At this point in humanity's evolution we all each pre-inserted, automatically, with a contract to bring two children in. This is outworn, outmoded programming that was originally brought in at a time when the population was much smaller. This contract came about at a time in our history when if people didn't procreate, because of the prevalence of disease and war, humanity might die out. So spiritually, en masse, humanity took on the agreement to each bring in a minimum of two souls as their children....or to at least attempt to do so.
Remember, at the time that the Bible was written, the entire WORLD population was roughly equivalent to the current population of the state of New Jersey.
Since then, we've moved on to have some 7 billion folks here.
No longer do we need to maintain these contracts to automatically bring in two children each. We're not on the Ark. We don't carry the burden of humanity's continual survival.
That's why I respectfully disagree with the belief that some people hold that states that having children is "Why we are here."
Why Are We Here? To Become Creators
For many people, having kids is the ONLY way that they will ever tap into their powers as creators. But what we're really here for, is to come into our power as spiritually sovereign co-creators with God/Goddess/Great Spirit/Creator. That's the true urge behind wanting to have children. The procreative urge is really about the CREATIVE urge, something that we all have access to as spiritual beings and children of God. It's entirely natural to want to cultivate and refine that ability.
Having kids is just ONE way to tap into this energy. For many, it will be the only real opportunity for them to do this in their current lifetime because they won't make the effort to explore creativity in other aspects of their lives. They'll just express it in the simplest, most sexual way, not in a more illuminated way.
But there are many, many other journeys available to us. There's the arts. There's healing. There's learning how to affect reality shifts and do power prayer. All of these pathways also involve this same creationary energy. They are other ways to express this urge, ways that are as deeply fulfilling on every level as childrearing and parenting.
Understanding Soul Contracts and Spiritual Agreements with the Unborn
You can talk to the souls of the kids you have soul contracts with and work shamanically to make other arrangements with those souls if you don't wish to have children. Just talk to them from a place of love. They will work with the angels to make other arrangements to come into different bodies, no problem. And sometimes they won't even incarante, they'll decide to hang out as spiritual guides. Or they'll go somewhere else on the timeline to pursue a different arrangement - possibly with you or with some aspect of you, or with somebody else.
We have to remember that all contracts can be changed. Usually, they were made from a place of less enlightenment than where we are now. So sometimes they really SHOULD be changed. You may have outgrown the need for the contract.
For instance, you may have an arrangement that you put in place before this lifetime to meet a romantic soulmate who is going to abuse you one day, so you can deal with some of your own karma.
But what if you clear out that karma on your own years ahead of time and no longer need to have that experience with that romantic partner? You should end that soul contract to prevent being with that person.
These soul agreements are constantly flowing and evolving in the moment and are subject to change. You need only focus on everything coming together for the highest good of all, in a state of sincere loving kindness, and the Universe will create the perfect flow.
Here's a good invocation you can work with to make sure that any soul contracts you have in place right now are serving your highest good:
"I expel, cancel, and revoke all spiritual contracts that are not in alignment with my highest spiritual path, my spiritual purpose, and my spiritual immortality. I end all contracts that are not in alignment with the highest good."
Then, see what surfaces. You'll often feel stuff shift around and may become aware of some crusty, outmoded contracts - especially surrounding relationships - that are now being transmuted into a higher, healthier form.
As a side effect, sometimes certain friends, associates, or family members may "disappear" from your life, while happier, lighter folks appear very suddenly out of the blue. This is a sign that you are shifting those contracts around and the effects are materializing on the physical plane.
Having Children Generates Karma
To bring children into this world, by the way, creates tons of new karma. I'm into travelling light, myself, because I'm not at all certain that I'll be returning here. That's not to say that I think I'm better than anyone or more evolved, because I don't think that at all. But I am very aware that there are other realities, other places of a less dense vibration, that my energies are more in synch with. And by breeding and falling into the old human fallback position of creating layers and layers of karma on TOP of whatever karma I already need to work on, well, it's just not for me.
Some of the children I have ended contracts with have come into my life in other ways, through other parents, which has still allowed me to having loving, productive bonds with these individual souls. So that's another neat and marvelous way that soul contracts can be shifted and still be miraculous in a quasi-parenting way. It's like revising the entire framework of those old agreements and transmuting them into a higher, happier, more workable form for the benefit of all. It doesn't mean there's any end to the love bond, as that always continues and is eternal.
Basically, my entire philosophy comes down to this:
It's not my job to make more people.
My job is to make people better.
And so I devote my focus to the healing path, and I hope in some small way to lighten the energies here for the benefit of the many wonderful spirits who are still choosing to incarnate here....babies and indigo spirits included, but parents and other adults as well. Not to the mention the plant and animal kingdom and the Earth herself, who need massive amounts of healing right now.
Some days, I feel like I'm getting there, having some effect.
Most days, it feels like I still have a long way to go. But it's a wonderful process to be a part of, and I'm grateful for every moment of it.
Related article: More on the Decision to Remain Childfree
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"He has no children, because every time he felt the paternal urges wash over him, he would lie down in a dark room with a cold flannel over his face until the feelings went away."
---Alex Gordon, http://www.ninedeadlyvenoms.com, author of Nine Deadly Venoms and shamanic healer from the UK -- check out his stuff, it's great!
