I’ve been way behind on posting new articles in my ongoing Secrets of the Signs series. You can read my previous articles here: Secrets of the Signs. These earlier articles debunk a lot of common myths about signs like Aries, Taurus, etc. all the way through Libra.
But today it’s time to talk about the scary and amazing sign of Scorpio. Yay! I’ve been meaning to get to this for a while.
Scorpio Has a Laser Beam Soul
Scorpio is one of three Water signs (the others in the zodiac are Cancer and Pisces). While all Water signs are very perceptive, Scorpio is unique because people born under this intense sign have a laser beam-like quality in the way they can cut through lies, deceptions and pretense and see right to the core of something (or somebody).
It’s not easy being able to instantly peer right into the darkest underbelly of life, the universe, and everything! So this talent can make certain Scorpios very dark and tormented, personality-wise, because they become so jaded about humanity and so depressed about what’s going on with people. Put it this way: a HUGE number of “Goths,” zombie afficianados and people who end up trying to commit suicide are Scorpios. They process the dark side of life VERY intensely because their psyches literally have a direct conduit to the dark side of life.
There are lighter, sunnier Scorpios, too. These are Scorpios who are better able to use tools like humor, sarcasm, and creativity to shake off the heaviness of day to day life. So they might put this quality of being able to perceive things so clearly to use in a more positive way—-possibly through getting involved with the arts, becoming some type of healer or therapist, or working in some way to try to change society (like through becoming involved with politics or working on an exciting invention of some type that promises to improve human’s lives).
When I worked in professional theater I met loads of Scorpios, and every one of them put me to shame as a performer because they had an uncanny ability to BECOME the characters they were playing, because they were such natural psychologists and innate shapeshifters. There I’d be practicing my musical ballads with a Julie Andrews style voice and fluffy and sweet persona, and the Scorpio auditioning for a part right next to me would be pulling out a Mamet monologue and launching into the most intensely REAL short scene imaginable. If you need somebody to fully become a character in a show, definitely hire a Scorpio—you can’t go wrong hiring them!
Some people would say that Scorpios are very psychic, and sometimes this is true. But even Scorpions who are atheists, with zero interest in penetrating into the more refined layers of reality or subtle dimensions that mystical types enjoy, have an almost supernatural ability to SEE and FEEL the truth of something. It’s not really a psychic thing; it’s more of a cellular thing. The Scorpion ability to see right through someone when he or she is being fake is really remarkable; they’re the first in a room to detect when somebody is being deceptive. Their psyche serves as a natural lie detector, able to pick up on subtle cues and undercurrents that show that a person is lying or being manipulative in some way.
This isn’t psychic ability in the sense of perceiving auras or reading minds or any of that stuff; it’s more of a strong ability to SEE WHAt IS THERE in all its unvarnished glory.
You see, most of us suffer from chronic cognitive dissonance. When we go into a situation, we only see what we WANT to see. This is because most of us truly can’t handle the truth; it’s too upsetting to us and it challenges us far too much. The truth is uncomfortable, so most of us unconsciously screen it out.
If You Want to Be Friends with a Scorpio, You’ll Have to Man Up and Deal with Reality
Scorpios just see what’s there, without filters. This can make Scorpios seem very abrupt or even unkind, because socially, they tend to tell it like it is. They don’t sugarcoat things. They tend to only become friends with people who aren’t delicate little flowers, because if you’re someone who gets your feelings hurt or goes into a huff when someone is honest with you, a Scorpio won’t bother wasting time with you.
If you want to befriend a Scorpio, you’ll have to get real. And you’ll have to face the truth. And you’ll have to lose any of that “Love and light, there is no such thing as evil, people always mean well” type of naivete that is so very prevalent amongst New Agers, do gooders, and “positive thinker” types.
Because a Scorpio isn’t interested in obscuring the truth or hiding from reality, and he or she won’t do it in a close relationship with you just to make you feel better.
This doesn’t mean that Scorpios aren’t loving. It just means their bullshit detector is attuned to the highest degree possible, and their tolerance for lies and fakery is just about zero.
So you’d better get used to it, if you want to date/sleep with/marry/be friends with/hire/work for a Scorpio. It’s just their way.
Life is Harder for Female Scorpios Than Male Scorpios
Truth telling and brutal honesty have very little place in our culture, but when we DO pretend that we’re interested in the truth, we’re far more open to hearing it from a man than a woman. We praise the man for being “ballsy,” for being “real.” Meanwhile, a woman stating those same truths will almost always be called “insensitive,” “mean,” or, most frequently, “a total bitch.”
So unlucky female Scorpios spend most of their lives biting their tongues, withholding their honest assessment of people, situations, and things, and feeling extraordinarily uncomfortable about it. And so a pressure cooker builds, and within the female Scorpio’s psyche a lot of STUFF can start to boil. She’ll have to find some way to release the pressure, whether it’s through sex (a fave outlet for highly-sexed Scorpios), drugs, drinking, confessing things on a regular basis to her best friend/psychic/priest or whatever. GIRL NEEDS AN OUTLET for all those incredibly intelligent observations she’s been making and truths she’s been observing, stuff that “normal” folks around her just don’t want her to talk about.
Male Scorpios also deal with some of this, but when they are in the company of other men, it’s still a hell of a lot easier for them to let it all hang out and just shoot from the hip about the things they’ve been thinking and seeing.
Women have to work at finding that place, that situation, or that outlet where they can feel like it’s safe to be completely honest for a few minutes without constantly worrying about social censure or major rejection from the “tribe.”
You know what? Sometimes, it sucks to be a woman. And Scorpio women, with their incredible knack for seeing the truth and their unnerving ability to state truths nobody around them wants to hear, have it pretty damned tough most of the time.
(Can I just take a moment to give my Scorpio girls a group hug? Don’t ever stop being you, my ladies! You rock, even if nobody around you can deal with your overall fabulousness most of the damned time.)
Positive Affirmations for Scorpio
To navigate through life as a Scorpio, you’ll want to focus on combining your incredible intelligence and laser-like, penetrative awareness with a bit of a social balancing act—giving yourself permission to express the truth when doing so isn’t going to damage you, but also knowing when to use things like humor, artistry, and a sense of play to tackle any potentially distressing ideas with a bit more social tact and lighter touch.
Some affirmations that might help you:
“I move through life honestly and openly. I am a creature of truth.”
“I use my natural instincts to guide me safely through social situations.”
“When I sense danger, I take action instead of allowing myself to move into harmful realities.”
“If a loved one doesn’t honor my perceptions, I will find a way to heal this issue with them or gently withdraw my energies.”
“I allow myself to be smart about detecting people who bring an additive energy into my life and noticing when someone is an energy vampire.”
If Your Rising Sign is Scorpio
If your ascendant or rising sign is Scorpio, you’ll tend to “lead” with the Scorpion part of your personality. Others will turn to you for direction, for guidance, for suggestions about the smartest way to handle a situation. This makes you a great manager, teacher, director, organizer, and initiator. Your lifelong journey might be to find a career path that fully allows you to share your insights, or a profession that allows you to express that innate creative spark.
If Your Moon Sign is Scorpio
For people born with their moon sign in Scorpio, those perceptive qualities of Scorpio will tend to be more interior and private. You certainly FEEL lots of stuff, but you’re not particularly motivated to share those subtle moods and impressions with others. Instead, you take stock of things in an almost camera-like way; mentally recording moments, interactions, and experiences with the heart of an artist and the eye of a journalist. Consider an outlet like a blog, personal journal, or video diary; you need a place to PUT this stuff so it doesn’t fester and disable you.
Scorpios Rock, and Intensity is Part of the Package
Scorpios have many amazing gifts and a heightened level of overall perception that can sometimes make it frustrating (if you love a Scorpio or if you are a sensitive Scorpio who is simply trying to navigate through life)—-but very special, too.