Hi Lipstick Mystic,

You have an interesting angle on astrology/psychic stuff!

My topic is just a common one: I am moving on from the last relationship with Mr B. He wants to stay friends, but he now has a new girlfriend (who was also a client of mine.) What news of romance/distraction do you see for me in the future with someone else?

P.S. Thanks for the offer to do free readings.

Blessings,

Ms V.

Hi Ms. V.,

Thanks for submitting your question. When I cast the tea leaves for you, the image of the sword came up. That's an unusual one to appear in the context of a romantic reading. The sword, as you might imagine, carries connotations of power, rage, and strength.

I don't know if you're familiar with tarot symbology, but in the tarot deck, there is a suit of cards that is represented by the swords. In tarot imagery, swords usually highlight the intellect and the will. So those are some very dynamic associations around your love life!

When people are in the process of putting some distance between themselves and an old relationship, sometimes it takes a little more force or exertion of will than just "letting bygones be bygones" and "deciding to remain friends." Sometimes, if you dig down deeply within your own heart to unearth the truth, you'll realize that you don't WANT to be friends with this person. You either want to be romantically united or to have that person out of your life for good - a clean and antiseptic amputation, if you will.

My sense is that this is what this particular sword is hinting at in your reading. You may need a much more definitive placement of this relationship energy. Think "black and white" instead of "gray area." My feeling is that it's not really authentic for you to pretend that you're fine with all this and that you can just neutralize your feelings for this man overnight. I would advise you not to play the "highly-evolved soul" here. You know how many spiritually-oriented people tend to minimize their own emotions, stuffing "negative" ones in an effort to be "nice" and to come across as all-loving, all the time? Well, sometimes it's better to be a little LESS enlightened.

I would suggest that you might do more meditating around the end of this relationship and to tap into what you REALLY feel beneath your desire to be "nice." So he's dating a former client of yours. How does that REALLY make you feel?

I'm not trying to dredge up pain for you, Ms. V., but the sword is a very strong image to appear in a simple reading about romance. It's an indicator that something BIG needs to happen. There needs to be a larger, more dramatic, and more definitive release around the energies of this old relationship before you can really start to enjoy a new one.

Of course, this doesn't mean that you should take up arms and go smack your ex in the head with a cutlass. Unless you really want to.

However, maybe some firmer words DO need to be exchanged, a discussion about how you care for him but feel that his dating your former client is a bit shoddy.

Or, maybe you'll feel better writing down your feelings, screaming into the ethers to release them, or talking them out with a "witness" like a therapist or a healer who can help you to bring these feelings to true resolution.

In short, your tea leaf reading says don't focus on finding a new guy until you are really through processing the energies from this old relationship. My sense is that it won't take long. It just may require a little more emotional homework on your part, a little more communication, and a bit more healing.

So take that sword in hand and express your clear, unbending intent to move beyond this situation once and for all, expelling the energies of that union from your life in a more clear and definitive way. The leaves are urging you to be a bit of the warrior princess about this.

Think more like Xena, and you'll do just fine moving past this.

Best wishes for your healing, growth, and new opportunities in love (when the time is right.)

--LipstickMystic